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Why Visualization Doesn’t Always Work Part One

Why Visualization Doesn’t Always Work; part one
Based on the work of Robert Diltz

We’ve all tried it, or at least have heard of the power of positive visualization. “If only you could visualize what you want, you will have it” Right? Well, not always, and most often not. Many people have tried to change their lives and go from not having to having something that they truly desire by envisioning themselves being successful. However, if your “Reality Strategy” in your brain is not set at using the visual sense to determine reality, then visualization will not work. Let me explain:

“Reality strategies” are a series of mental tests that a brain does to determine if something is real or imagined. For the most part, our brains do not know the difference between what really happened and what we make up. This is either good news or not because we can imagine what ever we want and convince the brain that it is real. The same brain cells are used to represent both what really happen and things that are imagined. Because of that, the brain has other strategies to determine “reality”.
If you want to make something real for yourself, you have to make it fit your mental tests that say it is real. For example, some people might hear an internal voice saying that something is real, or they might be more attuned to smell or feeling. In this case visualizing without feeling what success is like or smelling or hearing what it is like will not convince the brain that it is real and that you really have it. We know that the most powerful way to manifest what we want is to already see, hear, feel, taste and smell what it will be like as if we already had it.
NLP decodes and uses people’s preferred method of reality checks to help them uproot limiting beliefs and also re grow new ones that are convincing tailored to the individual.
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Best Wishes!
Cinthia Dennis
MA NLP Practitioner
MA Human Development

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If you are finding yourself stuck in your head and feeling badly about someone or something and you can’t seem to make it stop; then using this NLP technique will surely help calm your mind.

Memories are stored in our brain and can become triggers that set off a chain reaction of associated emotions.  For example, if you think of a certain situation and you always feel upset, then your brain will learn to associate the two things together as well as any other event that might be surrounding it. The more the brain practices this, the more it becomes automated. This happens all under the surface of our awareness, and can wreak havoc on our lives.

Luckily, our brains’ learn very quickly and we can re-teach it to react in a different way.
We will do this with a process called “anchoring”.  We can create “anchors” for certain emotions on purpose and begin to merge two emotional states together creating different associations and change the firing patterns in the brain.

So this is how:

1). Lay back and get into a comfortable position.
2). Begin to think of the negative experience or person in your life.  Let the emotions really be felt in your body and amp them up.  As they are at their height of feeling, grab your right thigh and squeeze., let go after about 3-5 seconds.  Make sure you let go before the emotion begins to wane. Now you have set the first anchor.  When you squeeze the same place with the same amount of pressure, you will automatically feel this negative emotion again.
3). Now, begin to think of an opposite emotion.  Maybe it is joy, love, peace or self -confidence etc.
4). Now search through your memory banks for a time in your life when you felt this positive emotion.  Really step into the experience and feel it in your body. Squeeze your left leg and hold for 3
*( Please note: do not pick a memory that is one of your very favorites because it will become permanently altered.)

5). Now get back into a neutral state by shaking around a bit.
6). Squeeze the right thigh (anchor #1) and hold.  While still holding the negative anchor, squeeze the left thigh (anchor #2).  Hold them at the same time.  Notice how the two states merge together.
7).  You can repeat steps 5 -6 as many times as you like.

You have now permanently linked the two neural nets together.  Just for fun, try thinking about the original negative experience.  You might notice how it has changed.  You might notice how it feels less charged. The negative state is now permanently associated with the positive state and will no longer have the same intensity of emotion. This allows your brain to recode the experience and emotion and be able to let it go.

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Bye for now and stay tuned for more self help NLP!

Cinthia Dennis,
M.A. Human Development
M.A. NLP Practitioner

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5 ways to change a negative experience

Okay, we all have them, those nasty memories of the time when this or that went wrong. Or maybe it is a picture of catching our ex- partner cheating on us or the time when we failed miserably at something. when you remember these things, the emotions are very real and are always experienced now. The good news is, the brain doesn’t know the difference between past, present and future. So that means that we change the experience by changing how are brain is storing the memory. Once we do this it will no longer give you the heart wrenching pain or the embarrassment that it once did in the past.

This is how:

Think of a not so pleasant memory.(Now, be sure to pick one that you don’t mind getting rid of, because you will never experience it the same ever again after this exercise.)

1. Notice if the memory/picture is in black and white or color. Change the picture to color if it is black and white and or change it to black and white if it is in color and notice how that feels.
Decide what one feels better and imagine hitting “save” in your memory bank.

2. Notice if the picture is moving like a movie or if it is still like a photo. Change it to its opposite and see what one feels better and save

3. Notice if you are seeing yourself in the picture(disassociated) or are you looking through your own eyes(associated) and then change it to its opposite, see if it feels good. Then hit save.

4. Can you tell how close the picture is to you and how big is it? Play with moving it farther away from you and shrinking it down. Adjust it until it feels good.

5. If there is any sound or words that go with your memory, play with the tempo and pitch of the voice until it seems ridiculous and makes you laugh.

Next step: Try and remember the experience again….does it feel the same?
If so, then keep playing around with these settings until it no longer has the same charge for you.

Cinthia Dennis; M.A. NLP coach and counselor.

Cinthia Dennis; M.A. NLP coach and counselor.

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recipe: lemon red pepper grain medley

I came up with this on the fly the other day. I really enjoyed the synergy of flavors, so I’m sharing this with you:

Lemon Red Pepper Grain Medley:: Cook Time:: ETTE (estimated time to eat) 1 hour

- tomato sauce / paste / freshly blended tomato’s

- brown rice

- oat groats or cracked oats [depends how long you feel like boiling]

- split yellow lentils

- 3 to 4 lemons

- crushed red pepper, or whole peppers

- crushed black pepper

1. Start by cooking the brown rice by itself for about half an hour. At this point, feel free to add the oat groats, and bring to a medium heat.
2. Add the crushed red peppers / break up the peppers and add to the dish, along with the tomato sauce (however much you feel the dish needs), and stir regularly to avoid the oats sticking to the bottom of the pot with the rice. If you want more spicy heat – add the peppers earlier in the cooking to release more thoroughly their capsaicin.
3. Add the split yellow lentils, and black pepper and after about 15 minutes, it should have all come together.
4. Squeeze fresh lemon juice into your dish, to taste – and ENJOY!

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